As I was training parents the other day in reading skills, I found myself talking about the importance of memory and the need to develop this in very young children. Indeed, much of what we learn as we move through life relies on the power of our memory. Certainly within the Pre-Prep aged learners (ages 2 – 7 years old), we find that children with stronger memory skills greatly enhance their learning potential. A lot of this relates back to their very early development and how much this skill was valued both in their upbringing at home and activities at school. The more I thought about it the more I realised that this is an area that we all too often overlook, simply expecting it to develop without giving it specific support.
If you think about your own child(ren), is it any wonder they are so tired at the end of the day? For example, from the moment they wake up until the time they climb into bed at night, 6- to 8-year-olds are expected to remember everything from daily routines to the facts they are learning in class. They need to know letters and numbers automatically so they can begin to read, spell, and solve math problems, and they must be able to record their own experiences in writing. Rather than just listening to stories, they need to answer questions about specific details.
With these increasing academic demands, some children begin to feel unsure of their ability to recall everything they need to know, and they may even start saying, "I feel stupid." It's important, however, to reassure your child that remembering is a skill that he or she can learn like any other.
Memory is a complex process, and 6- to 8- year-olds are developing a range of strategies to help them recall information. Remembering requires the ability to store information for a few seconds (short-term memory), then for several minutes while manipulating information (active working memory), and finally for an extended period of time (long-term memory). For example, when copying spelling words from the blackboard, children must first remember the sequence of letters, and then they need to write the words down without spending a lot of time looking back at the board. Many whisper the words under their breath or repeat the letters out loud to help themselves. Later, they'll have to memorize the words for a spelling test.
The more opportunities your child gets to exercise their memory muscle, the easier it will be for them to handle the load of information in school. Such opportunities can begin in the early years as they are closely linked to that identity we value so highly at Wellington – independence. Children who have their every moment and choice anticipated for them are unlikely to develop strong memory skills. One of the most useful and fun games to play with young children is something I know as Kim’s game. It is a simple memory game which children thoroughly enjoy and find challenging. All you need is a tray, a selection of objects and fabric to cover it all. Work though the objects with the child(ren) – this can be great for expanding their vocabulary too! Then cover and secretly remove one object. Reveal and ask which object is missing. For the youngest children you can start with 3 or 4 objects, for older children you can challenge them with 10!
Here are some further tips for children across the Pre-Prep age range: